I’ve been wondering if life might be a little easier if we had no expectations of each other. It seems that almost all disagreements and divides come down to a sense that expectations are not met. But what is the cost of having no expectations? And how do can we gain benefit from shared expectations?
As workplace psychologists, we are often called upon to assist with conflicts in the workplace. Many times, we see disagreements that arise on the basis of a difference in interpretation and opinion. In this article, Miriam Yates (Psychologist at Within Consulting) provides some practical advice on managing this situation – in all areas of our lives! (Image Source: www.shannonspaulding.com)
I often work with individuals who struggle with OVER activities, and it’s usually part of the reason why they are seeking executive coaching. OVER-working, OVER-stressing, OVER-checking, and OVER-preparing to name just a few. Often these OVER activities follow a cyclical pattern of OVER-working (in some form) followed by OVER-indulgence. It’s frequently a hamster wheel pattern, not at all dissimilar to ‘yo-yo dieting’. (Image source: www.anecdotesandapples.com – a refreshing food blog and also a delicious recipe for making your own croissants)
What do you get when put two control freaks on a tandem bike together? The same thing you get when you put two high achievers on a project together! Here are some tips for managers of control freaks, co-workers of control freaks, and the control freaks themselves (from a fellow control freak). Image source: www.tandembicycletours.com
How can you learn and grow, when you feel you need to know it all to begin with? We are habituated to measure our success by external validation. For children, this may take the form of stickers, praise or grades at school. For us adults, it includes promotions, pay rises and positive feedback. Unfortunately, this external validation can undermine our capacity to learn and grow. (Image source: www.holidayssun.com; Puerto Banus at night)
Miriam Yates is a Consulting Psychologist and Project Manager at Within Consulting. Miriam shares her tips and tricks for changing behaviours and modifying our automatic habits, so they work for us – not against us! For more information, contact Miriam at firstname.lastname@example.org.
An inspiring review of Angela Duckworth’s book Grit, by Miriam Yates, Consulting Psychologist at Within Consulting.
Why do you need Grit? How do you get it? And why talent isn’t everything!
Argumentative? Time poor? Control freak? No willpower? Weakness for a good Shiraz? Coffee addiction? Bad hair? No problem, leave them all behind in 2015 and welcome a NEW YOU in 2016! As we welcome in another new year, we are overwhelmed with articles encouraging us to become a brand new turbo-improved version of our former selves. But the reality is – You can’t just skip over yourself.
Our Consulting Psychologist Miriam Yates shares insights into receiving feedback on our work, including why it can be a painful process and how we can make the most of the ‘gems’ hidden in almost all workplace feedback.
If you have ever worked within a team that was in conflict, then you know how bad it can get. Many teams go through periods of conflict, and some teams go through periods where the whole working environment can feel absolutely toxic. A team in this situation needs assistance to work effectively together. The worst thing a manager can do is ‘let them be’ and hope they will work it out themselves. However, even the best managers find these situations very difficult to navigate.