Great Expectations

I’ve been wondering if life might be a little easier if we had no expectations of each other.  It seems that almost all disagreements and divides come down to a sense that expectations are not met. But what is the cost of having no expectations?  And how do can we gain benefit from shared expectations?

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Managing Conflict (When You Are Both Right!)

As workplace psychologists, we are often called upon to assist with conflicts in the workplace.  Many times, we see disagreements that arise on the basis of a difference in interpretation and opinion. In this article, Miriam Yates (Psychologist at Within Consulting) provides some practical advice on managing this situation – in all areas of our lives! (Image Source: www.shannonspaulding.com)

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Eating with Abandon: The French Way

I often work with individuals who struggle with OVER activities, and it’s usually part of the reason why they are seeking executive coaching. OVER-working, OVER-stressing, OVER-checking, and OVER-preparing to name just a few. Often these OVER activities follow a cyclical pattern of OVER-working (in some form) followed by OVER-indulgence. It’s frequently a hamster wheel pattern, not at all dissimilar to ‘yo-yo dieting’. (Image source: www.anecdotesandapples.com – a refreshing food blog and also a delicious recipe for making your own croissants)

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Learning: Why it’s easier said than done

How can you learn and grow, when you feel you need to know it all to begin with?  We are habituated to measure our success by external validation.  For children, this may take the form of stickers, praise or grades at school.  For us adults, it includes promotions, pay rises and positive feedback. Unfortunately, this external validation can undermine our capacity to learn and grow. (Image source: www.holidayssun.com; Puerto Banus at night)

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New Year, New You? Embracing the Inner Gorilla

Argumentative? Time poor? Control freak? No willpower? Weakness for a good Shiraz? Coffee addiction? Bad hair?  No problem, leave them all behind in 2015 and welcome a NEW YOU in 2016!  As we welcome in another new year, we are overwhelmed with articles encouraging us to become a brand new turbo-improved version of our former selves. But the reality is – You can’t just skip over yourself.

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Working with Teams in Conflict

If you have ever worked within a team that was in conflict, then you know how bad it can get. Many teams go through periods of conflict, and some teams go through periods where the whole working environment can feel absolutely toxic.  A team in this situation needs assistance to work effectively together.  The worst thing a manager can do is ‘let them be’ and hope they will work it out themselves.  However, even the best managers find these situations very difficult to navigate.  

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