I’ve been wondering if life might be a little easier if we had no expectations of each other. It seems that almost all disagreements and divides come down to a sense that expectations are not met. But what is the cost of having no expectations? And how do can we gain benefit from shared expectations?
How can you learn and grow, when you feel you need to know it all to begin with? We are habituated to measure our success by external validation. For children, this may take the form of stickers, praise or grades at school. For us adults, it includes promotions, pay rises and positive feedback. Unfortunately, this external validation can undermine our capacity to learn and grow. (Image source: www.holidayssun.com; Puerto Banus at night)
Miriam Yates is a Consulting Psychologist and Project Manager at Within Consulting. Miriam shares her tips and tricks for changing behaviours and modifying our automatic habits, so they work for us – not against us! For more information, contact Miriam at firstname.lastname@example.org.
An inspiring review of Angela Duckworth’s book Grit, by Miriam Yates, Consulting Psychologist at Within Consulting.
Why do you need Grit? How do you get it? And why talent isn’t everything!
Argumentative? Time poor? Control freak? No willpower? Weakness for a good Shiraz? Coffee addiction? Bad hair? No problem, leave them all behind in 2015 and welcome a NEW YOU in 2016! As we welcome in another new year, we are overwhelmed with articles encouraging us to become a brand new turbo-improved version of our former selves. But the reality is – You can’t just skip over yourself.
Our Consulting Psychologist Miriam Yates shares insights into receiving feedback on our work, including why it can be a painful process and how we can make the most of the ‘gems’ hidden in almost all workplace feedback.