I’ve been wondering if life might be a little easier if we had no expectations of each other. It seems that almost all disagreements and divides come down to a sense that expectations are not met. But what is the cost of having no expectations? And how do can we gain benefit from shared expectations?
Scholars have argued that for women the pathway to leadership is akin to a ‘labyrinth’ wherein it’s not so much a ‘glass ceiling’ that prohibits women from getting to the top, but rather a sum of obstacles that present along the way. The good news is, there unequivocally are ways to address gender diversity in the workplace (and they don’t involve annihilating men everywhere)! (Image source: http://www.theglobeandmail.com/news – A woman in Trafalgar Square during the Women’s March on London in central London, Britain January 21, 2017, Kevin Coombs/Reuters)
I don’t often tell people about the kind of psychology I do. It’s not that I’m not proud of it, but because it is generally misunderstood. When I tell people my work involves applying positive psychology and building resilience in the workplace, they usually look at me like I’m a flake. It seems they picture me facilitating group hugs and Kumbaya sing alongs. (Image source: reachout.com)
How can you learn and grow, when you feel you need to know it all to begin with? We are habituated to measure our success by external validation. For children, this may take the form of stickers, praise or grades at school. For us adults, it includes promotions, pay rises and positive feedback. Unfortunately, this external validation can undermine our capacity to learn and grow. (Image source: www.holidayssun.com; Puerto Banus at night)
Miriam Yates is a Consulting Psychologist and Project Manager at Within Consulting. Miriam shares her tips and tricks for changing behaviours and modifying our automatic habits, so they work for us – not against us! For more information, contact Miriam at firstname.lastname@example.org.
An inspiring review of Angela Duckworth’s book Grit, by Miriam Yates, Consulting Psychologist at Within Consulting.
Why do you need Grit? How do you get it? And why talent isn’t everything!
What do you want to become ‘more’ of? More patient, more confident, more assertive, more light-hearted? This article explores how we can identify the inner resources we need and want to develop, and the practical ways that we can ‘hardwire change’ in our minds. As I mentioned in my previous article, there is a growing body of research in the area of neuroplasticity that supports the idea that our talents, abilities and strengths are not fixed. We are all very quick to put ourselves (and others) into boxes which limit us. In fact, we all have the capacity to change, …
Do you know what your greatest strengths are? Are you using your strengths at work?
If you answer yes to both of these questions, chances are you are likely to be more engaged in your work (Lewis, 2011). In fact, research suggests that knowing your strengths and being able to apply them is the path to a happier and more fulfilling life in general (Seligman, 2006).